After my previous writeup on sex, i have gathered that its very important to give a followup on how to actually quit the life of sexual immorality; keeping oneself until marriage, or at least how to begin to fight the sin. I have prepared a few tips/guidelines for those who are in need of practical steps to quitting sex.
1. The first thing to do is breakup with your partner:
Many people who have complained of this sin, and who have failed to become free from it have agreed that one of the reasons is they they fail to breakup with their illicit sexual partner. This is where violence comes in. When it is about your soul and your salvation, its not so bad to hurt someone (as long as you are breaking up to be with Jesus). You cannot keep pitying someone who leads you to sin or who poses great temptation to you. No matter how hard its going to be upon someone, just break free and run. The devil shall use this fake sympathy to keep some people “Chained” to their sexual partners one way or another.
When you have broken free, STAY AWAY ! Sometimes the temptation might come to have a chit chat with him/her, from there you might find yourself becoming weak in your heart again and going back to a life you have left off.
The Devil can also tell you “Just one visit” “Just one phone call” etc. That “One” can ruin everything you have struggled to build in a long time. The reason why you MUST FIGHT this person’s image as violently as possible is because you have had a certain “bond” with him/her. Once you are around, your body must respond from your heart at least, this is nature, this is unavoidable chemistry; this could mean serious emotional drive to go back.
2. Fill yourself with someone new
When you have cast out the lover from your heart, you cannot leave it empty, Jesus has to come in and fill that void. If no one fills this void, its hardly possible for it to stay empty for long. Build strong bonds with Jesus and his Mother through prayer and good works. Join pious societies that will help you, have quality friends who will support you in this journey.
3. Stay away from bad friends
When i say “Bad” i do not mean you should think anyone literally bad. What i mean here is to avoid all those who might influence you to the life you have abandoned. Sometimes their influence over you might be stronger than you can notice, this is why you need to cut off or curtail your relationships with them. Make new and positive friends who discuss God and other positive circular topics.
4. For fiances:
All the advice given above to “quit” and “cut” are mainly for relationships with people who are either not old enough for marriage or who are not ready for it for other reasons. As for those who are already engaged, or men who are seeking a wife: you will not drop dead if your relationship is kept clean. You will be guaranteeing the place of God in your relationship if you let him guide your hearts towards each other for his sake.
Reforming a premarital courtship already tainted with sexual habits can be daunting, however it is not impossible. For this is suggest the person talks it over with the partner, let them decide on how to see each other from then on, in public places where they will not be tempted, let them involve God in their chats, in their lives. If the partner agrees, thanks to God, if not, the person in question should weigh his/her options critically, and apply a little more pressure. I strongly advice that when this becomes even harder, the person should meet his/her spiritual guide or confessor or a good Priest.
May the Lord set us free from Sin and show us the beauty there is in holiness. Amen !
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